This is a concept lots of teen guys and girls like to play with, unfortunately branding shitty relationships as loving, as if thats the ultimate safety pin that can hold it all together. It's a dream. When you try waking them up they get offensive because they don't want to see the truth. Love is an action, not a feeling, lust and attraction are base instinct, infatuations being a result of this. If a guy enters a relationship with only meaningless words that don't match his actions, then he is full of shit.

Love is an action, it's proven through what you give to eachother, not take. In infatuation you only enter needing things, socially demanding them from one another.

If you love someone you aren't afraid, because you've developed this, you trust yourself to be with them and not get hurt. You have to know them as a friend or well before you can actually love, just asking some girl you think is hot out and dating for a couple weeks doesn't make you eligable to love them. In infatuation people are insecure, afraid, and controlling.

Picture infatuation as two people coming to a table and sitting down, each with a bag labeled wants, and they're demanding things from eachother. Picture love as two ppl with strengths they have in common and being able to support eachother. Make no mistake, physical attraction is needed for their to be any relationship, but it has nothing to do with love. The bond does.

If your boyfriend treats you like crap, and he says he loves you, and you somehow think words and sentiments ar enough for it to succeed when it keeps crashing, then you're just playing doormat. An actual loving relationship isn't something that dies every week, if someone can't bear to face the possibility that their bf just says I love you because it's a generic term that mentally binds you over time, then it means they're afraid it's true.

A guy who loves you doesn't try to control you, he gives you freedom because he trusts you, insecurity is infatuation. Someone who can't trust you also can't trust themself... just as how a liar eventually can't believe anything he's told for suspecting it's a lie, and thief can't trust anyone he knows. Think on that.

 

NOTE

To prevent further misunderstanding, my friend whom I was referring to was Lynn, so all my other kitchener friends my rest easy again.

A guy who loves you is faithful and doesn't want to take things from you, only gives them. A guy who loves you will never try solving relationship problems with anger and apologies. This is something I learned in philosophy class, if you disagree with it, or if you feel my definition of infatuation is a prime example of your relationship, then you need to review your own definition of it. I have a friend in kitchener who is apparently loved by this guy who won't let her talk to me, or basically any other guy, if our friendship means less that a controlling relationship then it wasn't worth it anyways.

Love is an action, not a feeling. Infatuation is base instinct, learn to differentiate between that two rather than purposely distorting the differences.